A question I used to frequently ask myself was, “How was Jesus able to see the illusion of suffering without becoming attached to it?” As an empath it has always been particularly difficult for me to understand. In my healing work, I have endured the pain of being an empath, using it as a tool to assist me in working with others despite it being strenuous on my own energy, thoughts, and emotions.
Always yearning to enhance my own awareness, I decided to pray on the subject of empaths and how an empath can use their ability in a more enlightened way. Upon doing so I was flooded with information that was profound to me. Things that made so much sense but I could never have imagined. This new understanding has helped me transmute the concept of being an empath in the typical human sense, to being connected to others through Christ Consciousness.
What is an Empath?
The definition of empathy is: “The psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another.”
An empath is the physical embodiment of this definition. An empath is a person who connects with and is affected by the emotions and energy of other people and situations. We are highly sensitive to our surroundings and are at times unable to differentiate between our emotions and the emotions of others. While intuition and psychic abilities can be exercised and strengthened, being an empath is something people are born with. It is not necessarily genetic but empaths usually run in the family.
Due to feeling others emotional states, we are generally in a heightened emotional state ourselves. We enjoy the arts, particularly music, and become deeply emotionally moved by the art we connect with. We are natural born caretakers and surround ourselves with people who need “mothering.” Because of this, many empaths find themselves working in the healing arts or in a field which requires them to help others.
Empaths are Martyrs
An empath generally has a very strong victim mentality which is why others suffering is so strongly felt. When we are attached to our suffering we attach to the suffering of others.” Those who identify with being an empath generally describe feelings or memories of past life martyrdom, being victimized in some way such as witches burned at the stake, being persecuted for religious purposes, being falsely accused, or some sort of tragic circumstance.
Being sensitive and having a victim mentality may have manifested as a difficult childhood. Abuse, neglect, bullying, or torment attests to our victimhood while simultaneously enhancing our abilities. Many empaths share feelings of being misunderstood, being told they are too sensitive or being victimized in some other fashion.
Empaths generally do not have good boundaries until after a lot of personal work or emphasis on creating healthy boundaries. Because we have a difficult time differentiating between our feelings and the feelings of others we may find it difficult to say no, especially when we feel responsible for the feelings of others.
Empaths usually have relationships with stronger personalities, which sometimes present themselves as abusive, narcissistic, overbearing or co-dependent. Natural caregivers, empaths find it easier to take care of others rather than ourselves and may find people who demand our care. This hinders our level of self-care and can lead to depleting ourselves. Because we feel other’s pain it also makes it difficult to leave because we empathize so deeply with them.
Empaths manifest a lot of sicknesses and generally have chronic aches, pains, and disease. Because we feel more comfortable taking care of others, empaths manifest sickness as a way of getting attention without having to outwardly ask for it, which is immensely uncomfortable and counteracts our caretaker role. We also create sickness in our bodies because we generate a full scale of emotions but do not properly release or dispose of these unwanted emotions. This also perpetuates the false belief that empaths are martyrs and must suffer for the well-being of others. Many empaths admit to taking their clients lying symptoms of aches, pains or sickness during or after sessions. Some empaths even pride themselves on how extensively they are able to feel the plight of others. This is a very old world belief that is still practiced for lack of better understanding of how to initiate healing.
The Ego of the Empath
Many who identify with being an empath relate to these characteristics and hindrances but do not fully grasp how intensely they feed into our ego. Having identified with being an empath myself I always viewed it as a type of superpower, something that made me a better psychic, healer, and spiritual teacher. I believed that by connecting to people’s pain it would give me an advantage because I could help them on a level many others could not. What I have come to realize through my prayer is that this is not the case. Suffering is ego, therefore suffering for others or because of others, is also ego. God is only love, accordingly, feeling anything outside of love is not God, it is our human error. By connecting with others pain and suffering we are connecting with their ego and validating it instead of renouncing it.
What’s worse is that we accommodate our ego by enabling its authority in our lives. Many empaths will forgo events or public outings due to a number of people attending. It is suggested by some professionals that we calculate our circumstances to adapt to our “condition” and monitor people, places, and things to ensure our feelings of safety. Solitude is good for the soul, but needing it because of the effects other people have on our psyche is ego. Self-care is important, but it is no more important for empaths than it is for anyone else. Because empaths squander our energy more than most people it may appear we need more self-care but we actually need to stop taking ourselves so far away from our center in the first place. This is where our own personal growth and spiritual advancement becomes critical. In order to most benefit ourselves and others, we should be healing the parts of ourselves that believe in suffering or being victimized and practice the dispelling of these beliefs in our Consciousness. Regardless of the name we give it suffering, fear, and lack are all facets of ego. By associating with the illusion of darkness in others we perpetuate the belief in darkness in ourselves.
“As long as you are attached to your suffering, you will attach to the suffering of others.” These words were so very clearly spoken to me and have changed my entire perception about empaths and what we are capable of. Being an empath is an ability that can either assist us in raising our consciousness and the consciousness of others or keeps us all in our private prisons. When we realize our attachment to our suffering we may begin to release and forgive it. We should not be suffering for anyone. We should not be accommodating our ego or giving it free reign to dictate our lives or actions. We should not be seeing ourselves as victims or viewing others as victims either. There are no victims in God and there is no suffering in God. When we realize this Truth and practice it in our lives we can diminish our ego.
We should be denying the false idea of suffering and the existence of ego completely. We should be affirming the Truth of God and being the embodiment of that truth in our lives and work. By committing to this concept we can shed our attachment to suffering and free others of their attachment to suffering as well. This requires devotion to one’s own personal and spiritual development and a commitment to our own healing. It is a constant practice of releasing and healing the belief in ego and claiming the Truth of God. But when we establish a union between our Christ light and the Christ light in others, we genuinely connect to our authentic selves, not a false identity of ego. Instead of being attached to the suffering we can recognize and feel the Christ in others and assist them in bringing that forth.
To Your Christ Consciousness!
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