“You never turn your back on family”
“It’s the only family you’ve got”
“Family is forever”
The sayings and sentiments around family are endless. We see and hear about loving families and our heart aches. We hope and wish that maybe they will change. We think “Maybe if I love them enough, they will see my efforts and know how much I care and that will be enough.” We want to believe that somehow our family will have a pivotal moment that transforms their thoughts, actions, and behaviors and that the family we long to have will finally manifest. The stories, films, and literature about these types of situations are endless and it gives us hope. Unfortunately, more often than not this is not the reality and instead we are left building ourselves up, while our families let us down.
It’s normal to want to have a good relationship with our family. However, there comes a time where we have to cut our losses and realize that by staying in the relationship with one or all of our family members we are allowing ourselves to stay in harm’s way.